《消防员》这个标题并不吸引人，但是深入下去却发现这是一部寓意深刻，相当不错的爱情励志电影。

   故事是讲了一对已婚7年的男女，男主人公是消防员，他在工作中简直是众人心目中的英雄。但在婚姻中，却走到绝望的地步，其实只是因为生活的琐事使自己感觉和对方再也无法相处下去了。

    在离婚前，男主人公听取父亲的建议，接受《爱的挑战40天》，男人主人公本无意接受，但碍于对父亲的爱，而接受建议。父亲每天都给他一个建议，让他知道这一天该做什么事让妻子引起注意。他非常被动的做着，也多次想打退堂鼓，但经父亲的鼓励，坚持下去。做到20天，他非常沮丧，因为妻子没有任何改变。

    他于是去征求父亲的意见，想放弃，但父亲告诉他，他的失败是因为所做的事没有爱，如果用爱心真心来做，就效果不一样。但他做不到，因为他觉得自己做了那么多，而妻子仍然不屑一顾，她不配得到他的爱。但是父亲告诉他，上帝爱着我们，虽然我们都不配得，但上帝仍然爱着我们。父亲劝谏他信了耶稣，从此他用真心去为妻子做，40天后，他的真心行动感动了妻子，他们重新找到了曾经失落的爱情。

    他一直不爱他的妈妈，他一直以为从前他的妈妈要离开他爸爸，是他爸爸用《爱的挑战40天》拯救了婚姻。可父亲告诉他那《爱的挑战40天》是他母亲亲自写的，当时不对的是父亲，但父亲因为被感动才留住了婚姻。而且比以前更爱她。

    这个故事或许对我们许多人有启发，因为生活的琐碎让我们的婚姻平淡，让我们的爱情沉寂。或许，我们也可以接受《爱的挑战40天》试试？或许他让我们重新燃起曾经遗忘的爱情？

    主角为了挽回失败的爱情所接受的40天的“爱的挑战”，从中学会了什么是真爱，最终也挽回了那段即将结束的婚姻。“爱的挑战”不是一件容易坚持下来的事，一但你接受了挑战，就不能去放弃，这些会对你今后的爱情、婚姻都有所帮助。

Love Dare - Day 1

Resolve to say nothing negative about your spouse today.

今天，请努力，不说有关配偶的坏话 (负面的评价)，一句也不说。

Love Dare - Day 2

Do at least one unexpected gesture to your spouse as an act of kindness.

至少做一件让配偶意想不到的事情，来表示你对配偶的好意和善心。

Love Dare - Day 3

Buy your spouse something that says, “I was thinking about you today.”

给配偶买点东西，来表述心意说：“我今天想着你！”

Love Dare - Day 4

Contact your spouse sometime during the day and ask how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them.

给配偶打个电话或留个言，问个好，看是否能帮他/她做点什么。

Love Dare - Day 5

Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them.

询问配偶，让他/她告诉你三件事，三件你让配偶在平时生活中感觉不爽的事情。 请千万留意你不要因此而反击你的配偶。

Love Dare - Day 6

Choose to react to tough circumstances in your marriage in loving ways instead of with irritation.

请选择用友爱的方式，而不是用怒火来应对婚姻中的礁石。

Love Dare - Day 7

On a sheet of paper, write out positive things about your spouse. At some point during the day, pick a positive attribute from the list and thank your spouse for having the characteristic.

在一页纸上，罗列出配偶的优点。然后，时不时地从中找出一两项，来赞扬和感激配偶的这些优良品质。

Love Dare - Day 8

Share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he or she recently enjoyed.

告诉你的配偶，你为他/她最近引以为豪的成就，感到由衷的快乐和喜悦。

Love Dare - Day 9

Think of a way to greet your spouse today to reflect your love for them, and then do it with a smile and enthusiasm.

今天，想出一招去问候你的配偶，带着微笑和热情使出此招，来表达对配偶的爱意。

Love Dare - Day 10

Do something out of the ordinary today for your spouse.

今天，为配偶做点非同寻常的事情。

Love Dare - Day 11

What need does your spouse have that you could meet today?

你的配偶有什么需求正好是你今天可以满足他/她的？

Love Dare - Day 12

Demonstrate love by willingly choosing to give in to an area of disagreement between you and your spouse.

为了展示爱情，在你和配偶意见分歧的一个方面，心甘情愿地选择妥协和让步。

Love Dare - Day 13

Talk with your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagement and resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs.

和配偶协商，共同规划健康友好的条约来解决分歧，在以后的意见不合的时候，努力遵守并执行此条约。

Love Dare - Day 14

Purposefully neglect an activity you would normally do so you can spend quality time with your spouse.

为了和配偶有更多高质量的相处时间，有意放弃一项你自己通常会做的活动。

Love Dare - Day 15

Choose a way to show honor and respect to your spouse that is above your normal routine.

选择一途，超越寻常的自我，来表达对配偶的敬意和尊重。

Love Dare - Day 16

Pray for three specific areas where you desire for God to work in your spouse’s life and in your marriage.

祈求上帝改良你配偶生命中和你婚姻生活中的三个方面。

Love Dare - Day 17

Determine to guard your mate’s secrets and pray for them.

下定决心，守护你配偶的秘密，并为之祷告。

Love Dare - Day 18

Prepare a special dinner at home and focus this time on getting to know your spouse better.

在家里为配偶准备一顿特别的晚宴，在共进晚餐的浪漫之际，更深更好地了解你的配偶。

Love Dare - Day 19

Ask God to show you where you stand with him, and ask for the strength and grace to settle your eternal destination.

恳求上帝让你明白你和他的关系，向他祈求力量和恩惠，来安置你永恒的家。

Love Dare - Day 20

Dare to take God at his word and trust Jesus Christ for salvation.

勇于听从上帝的话语，并且相信基督耶稣是救主。

Love Dare - Day 21

Make time to pray and read your bible today.

今天，挤出时间向上帝祷告，并阅读圣经。

Love Dare - Day 22

Choose to be committed to love even if your spouse has lost most of their interest in receiving it.

选择矢志不渝地忠于执守你对配偶的爱情，纵然对方已经对此意兴阑珊。

Love Dare - Day 23

Remove anything that is hindering your relationship, stealing your affections and turning your heart away from your spouse.

除去所有的”第三者”，这些东西有损健康的夫妻关系，偷窃你对配偶的爱情，夺走你对配偶的爱心。

Love Dare - Day 24

Identify every object of lust in your life and remove it.

找出你生命中每一项不良嗜好，并将之抛弃。

Love Dare - Day 25

If there is anything you haven’t forgiven in your spouse, forgive it today.

如果还有任何事情你还不曾原谅你的配偶，请在今天原谅他/她。

Love Dare - Day 26

Ask for God’s forgiveness for your areas of wrongdoing, then humble yourself enough to admit them to your spouse.

祈求上帝原谅你所做过的错事，然后诚恳谦卑地向你的配偶承认错误。

Love Dare - Day 27

Think of one area where your spouse has told you you’re expecting too much, and tell them you’re sorry for being so hard on them about it.

想一想，你的配偶曾告诉你，你对他期望值太高之处。请在今天为之道歉，对不起，在此事上难为了配偶。

Love Dare - Day 28

Purpose to do what you can to meet the greatest need in your spouse’s life right now.

今天，倾心倾力，尽己所能来令你配偶人生中最大的愿望得以实现。

Love Dare - Day 29

Before you see your spouse again today, pray for them by name and for their needs.

今天，在再见到配偶之前，专门为他们的需要祈祷。

Love Dare - Day 30

Ask the Lord to reveal anything in your own heart that is threatening oneness with your spouse and, if appropriate, discuss it openly and seek God for unity.

祈求上帝向你揭示你内心隐藏的有碍夫妻同心的意念，如果可行，和配偶共商，向上帝寻求同一的心。

Love Dare - Day 31

Commit to God and your spouse to make your marriage the top priority over every other human relationship.

向上帝和配偶承诺，婚姻是你所有人际关系中的首选项，最为优先项.

Love Dare - Day 32

If at all possible, try to initiate sex with your spouse today(in a way that honors them).

今天，如果可能，主动献殷勤，向配偶提供尊重体贴的贴身服务。

Love Dare - Day 33

Tell your spouse that you desire to include them in your upcoming decisions, and that you need their perspective and counsel.

告诉配偶你很想让之参与以后所有事情的决策过程，你需要配偶的观感和劝告。

Love Dare - Day 34

Verbally commend your spouse about a recent time when they demonstrated Christian character in a noticeable way.

口头赞扬配偶，有关最近在他/她身上明显观察到的基督徒的品格。

Love Dare - Day 35

Find a Christian marriage mentor. Ask God to direct your decisions and discernment.

找一位基督徒婚姻辅导员。祈求上帝来指导你们的决定，帮助你们分辩是非。

Love Dare - Day 36
Commit to reading the bible every day. If your spouse is open to it, see if they will commit to reading with you.

决心每天阅读圣经。如果你的配偶愿意，看看是否两人可以共同阅读。

Love Dare - Day 37
Ask your spouse if you can begin praying together.

询问你的配偶是否两人可以开始一同祷告。

Love Dare - Day 38
Ask yourself what your spouse would want if it was obtainable, then map out a plan for meeting some (if not all) of their desires.

问问自己，什么东西是你的配偶渴望得到的，同时又是你能够给予的？然后，制订出可行计划来满足配偶的其中一些(如果不是全部)的愿望

Love Dare - Day 39
Spend time in personal prayer, then write a letter of commitment and resolve to your spouse. Leave it in a place where you mate will find it.

花点时间为自己的事祷告，然后给配偶写一封信，表达你对婚姻的承诺和决心。把信放在配偶肯定不会错过的地方。

Love Dare - Day 40
Write out a renewal of your vows and place them in your home.

写出你们结婚誓言的续篇，放于家中，(刻在心里) 。